Monday, November 26, 2018 / by Ryan Carlson
Buying or selling a home can be an emotional transition. Packing up and leaving one home and then getting settled into another is often disorienting. This can be especially tough during the holidays, which is traditionally a time we associate with enjoying the comforts and familiarity of home. If you’re experiencing a transition this holiday season, take heart. There are many reasons to be thankful for this phase in your life. Here are some tips to help you find your gratitude during your transition.
Resist making comparisons
Teddy Roosevelt said, “Comparison is the thief of joy,” and nothing could be truer. It’s tempting to compare how this holiday is different from those in the past, but try to resist that urge. Comparison robs you of your happiness and will make your transition more challenging. Focus on the present and find the small joys in each day.
Get out of the house
When you’re in the process of moving, it can get chaotic inside your house. When you get a little too stressed out, give yourself a time out. Get out of the house and do something fun. Go see a movie or have a delicious lunch. If you’re leaving town, drop in on a friend and let them know how much their friendship has meant to you. If you’re getting settled in a new place, take some time to explore your new neighborhood. Everyone deserves a breather, even when there’s work to do. Those boxes will still be there for you to tackle tomorrow.
Appreciate a fresh start
Everyone has different reasons for moving, and they can be both positive and negative. If you’re feeling conflicted or blue about saying goodbye, practice having a positive mindset. Remind yourself that this is an opportunity for a fresh start. Declutter and purge items that no longer serve you. It can be healthy and productive to work through your emotions and appreciate the possibilities that lie ahead.
One of the toughest parts of moving is not knowing where anything is. Whether you’re packing or unpacking, it’s frustrating to not know where basic items are hiding. Be kind to yourself and stay organized. Make sure you have all the supplies you need, and keep them in a central location. Label boxes once they’re packed. Pack an overnight bag that has some comfort items in it so you’ll feel more at home on your first few nights in the new place.
Finally, one of the best ways to stay grounded during a stressful transition is to practice mindfulness. When you’re worried or anxious about what happens next, you rob yourself of the ability to feel joy right now. Mindfulness is a great way to deal with those uncomfortable emotions. Close your eyes and take a few moments to take some deep breaths. Observe your emotions without judgment. Acknowledge something that you’re grateful for at that very moment. It could be your health, the way the light is coming through the window, or your favorite cat resting at your feet.
Although transitions are often stressful – especially during the holidays – you can and will get through them. Try some of the techniques above if you’re facing a tough transition this holiday season.